On the morning of my 70th birthday, I woke up with an aching feeling that I was now in the third act of my life. I felt an urgency to know more, feel more, and do more. I questioned how I was going to spend the rest of my life in a meaningful way. After all, I expected to live to 100! I guess I was having a mid-life crisis at 70.
I had always loved to live passionately, enjoyed being creative, and found a certain sweetness in caring for others. Despite some everyday annoyances and periodic challenges, life had been good to me. I had been happily living with my loving husband for over 40 years. Our son and daughter-in-law were expecting their first child — and I was about to be a grandmother for the first time. David and I had created a busy couple therapy practice, and were living in a country home, having moved away from the hustle and bustle of city life.
At 70, I had no intention of retiring. But I knew I needed to slow down to create less stress in my life. I have always seen myself as a lifelong learner, and I had several careers behind me. As a psychotherapist, I had first-hand experience studying why people behave the way they do, and why they make the choices they make. But even after 20 years practice as therapist, I began to question my own raison d’être.
As a self-employed empty-nester considering semi-retirement, I wanted to feel more relevant, live purposefully, and create more meaningful connections.
I was beginning to realize that I had been focusing too much of my time on work and professional development, and not enough on my personal relationships and self-care. For years, I had allowed stress and self-doubt to keep me from exploring and expressing my many talents and interests.
These weren’t despairing thoughts. In fact, I wondered how I could make a more authentic contribution to the world. I began to reach out to family, friends and clients in a new way. I nurtured a desire to connect with women more meaningfully, and began sharing my experiences more openly. I found great pleasure in encouraging women to find new purpose and meaning as they approached retirement or yearned for new beginnings in their later years.
But life doesn’t always go the way you want it to. When an unexpected health challenge came my way, I was forced to lighten my workload. Unable to move forward as I had originally planned, I began a deeper emotional and spiritual journey. I discovered the benefits of Energy Psychology (in particular, EFT Tapping), daily meditation, joyful exercise, and eating a plant-based diet. I became more creative, resourceful and purposeful. And I connected to a supportive healing community, finding that everything is easier when we choose not to go it alone.
And what I uncovered could benefit you.
I engaged a health coach, listened to inspiring podcasts, joined online wellness summits, and began training as an EFT practitioner. Tapping (otherwise known as EFT) was a huge personal awakening for me that required a lot of self-reflection and self-acceptance. I felt rejuvenated by following a healthier diet, explored mind/body techniques and spiritual practices such as meditation and energy medicine, and reaped the benefits of Chinese Acupuncture, Reiki, and Reflexology.
I have to admit, I am still a work in progress. But I learned that even though I may be well over 60 — I am now in past my mid-70’s — it is never too late to grow in mind, body and spirit, build resilience, and embrace change. And it is never too late to love more deeply (even after 49 years!), make new friends, pursue old interests, or start a new business. I am living proof of that!
I invite you to join me on this exciting journey so you, too, can feel Vibrant Beyond Sixty.
My heartfelt wish is that you will share your stories, wisdom, inspiration, and friendship with the Vibrant Beyond Sixty community. By supporting each other, we will find joy, passion and a sense of purpose in what could be the best years of our lives.
If you want personal guidance as you begin, please reach out to me here. As registered psychotherapist and your personal coach , I will help you release the blocks that may be hindering your ability to become more creative, resourceful, purposeful and free. Let’s work together so you can begin to live your life to the fullest.
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